Have you finally gotten used to being single? I understand. I’ve been single since May of this year and though most would still consider me “newly single”, I’ve already adjusted to my new relationship status. Okay so let’s say you met somebody new and you guys hit it off. Great! It gets your adrenaline pumpin’ a little and you feel like maybe “you still got it”! Maybe being single isn’t so bad after all! Who knew?! But what happens next now that you have “new prey” locked into your radar? This may not be the case for everybody but , it seems like what usually follows next can be classified into three stages: The Honeymoon Stage, the Reality Stage, and The Decision Stage.
Part II: Reality
With that said, let me tell you about “The Reality Stage”. Reality is “the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined.” So what does “reality” have to do with this new thing you got going on? Well, it has everything to do with the future of it. During this stage, you are able to calm down a little on all the “lovey dovey” actions you’ve developed with your new partner and you can use some of that time you’ve devoted to “see” them for who they are….. good & bad. During the Honeymoon Stage you see your new friend in the “may appear or might be imagined” form of reality. You have focused on all the good things you like about them and have let these new feelings, you enjoy experiencing, cloud your judgment. The Reality Stage will help you to see the flaws you might have missed while you were busy making out and cupcakin’. I bet you never noticed how much she slobbers all on you when yall kiss or maybe you never noticed that he interrupts you midway through all of your sentences. There are several things about an individual that we begin to notice the more time we spend with them. Do these things bother you to the point where you would not be able to “put up “with these flaws everyday for the rest of your relationship?
xYung Miss aka Danielle Phoenix